In today’s society, we often find ourselves living according to the “axis of others.” We strive to meet the expectations of those around us, follow social rules, and constantly worry about how others perceive us. But is this truly the life we want? What if we took a moment to pause and listen to our inner voice? In this article, I’d like to share some insights on how to create an environment where you can live more authentically by embracing the idea of “thinking from your own axis.”

What is Your Own Axis?
Your “own axis” refers to making decisions and choices based on your own values and beliefs, rather than relying on others’ expectations or societal rules. This concept influences everything from daily decisions to life-changing choices.

When we live based on the expectations or evaluations of others, we can easily lose sight of our true selves, leading to stress and self-doubt. For example, when choosing a career, is picking a stable job because others say it’s the “right choice” truly what will make you happy? Or would you rather pursue something that aligns with your passion and dreams, even if it goes against the norm?

The Importance of Having Your Own Axis
Having your own axis means taking control of your life and not being swayed by the values of others or society. This becomes especially important when living a parallel life, where you engage in multiple activities or careers. The answers to questions about how to balance your time and energy are not found outside of you, but within.

Personally, I run a blog, work as a counselor, and enjoy hobbies on the side. Trying to do all of this while constantly worrying about others’ opinions would be impossible. The key is to focus on what truly matters to you, while letting go of the rest.

For example, there are times when I fully devote myself to blogging, and other times when I focus more on counseling. By prioritizing what feels right in the moment, I’m able to live a life that is true to myself without unnecessary stress. And most importantly, by living from my own axis, I feel confident and fulfilled in the decisions I make.

Steps to Establishing Your Own Axis
How can we establish our own axis and incorporate it into our daily lives? Here are the steps I’ve taken that have helped me.

Deepen Your Self-Understanding
The first step is to clearly define what you value and what brings you joy. In our busy daily lives, we often lose sight of our true desires. That’s why it’s important to regularly take time to reflect on yourself. Personally, I enjoy taking walks in nature or setting aside quiet moments to engage in self-reflection, which helps me reconnect with what I really want in life.

Practice Letting Go of Others’ Expectations
It’s not easy to stop worrying about how others perceive us. But it’s important to gradually release that burden. While there may be situations where meeting others’ expectations is necessary, it’s crucial not to ignore your own voice. Balance listening to external opinions with making decisions that are best for you—this is the first step in developing your own axis.

Build Confidence Through Small Wins
Boosting self-confidence is essential to living from your own axis. By acknowledging and celebrating small successes and things you’re proud of each day, you’ll grow more confident and less reliant on comparing yourself to others. For me, each time someone resonates with an article I’ve written, I feel a deep sense of joy and affirmation, strengthening my personal axis in the process.

Parallel Life and Thinking from Your Own Axis
Parallel life is a lifestyle in which you enjoy multiple careers or activities at once. In order to successfully live this way, having a strong personal axis is crucial. The reason is simple: you are the only one who can decide how to allocate your time and energy among your various pursuits.

I regularly balance blogging, counseling, and hobbies, but the common thread is that I always focus on what I’m most passionate about at any given time. These decisions aren’t based on external evaluations, but on my internal sense of what feels right. By doing so, I’m able to fully enjoy and immerse myself in each of my activities, while staying true to myself.

Putting Your Own Axis into Practice
Living according to your own axis may be challenging at first. But once this mindset becomes part of your daily life, you’ll find yourself confidently making decisions in everything from small, everyday choices to major life changes.

For instance, when you’re faced with a choice, ask yourself, “Is this really what I want to do?” By doing so, you can make decisions that reflect your own desires, without being influenced by the expectations of others.

Additionally, it’s helpful to regularly “reset” and take time to reconnect with your personal axis. Step away from the busyness of daily life and spend time listening to your inner voice. This will allow you to refresh your mind and regain the energy to continue making authentic choices.

Through my experience with parallel life, I’ve realized just how essential thinking from your own axis is. To live a more liberated and fulfilling life, it’s crucial to live not by the axis of others, but by your own.

In Conclusion
“Thinking from your own axis” is the key to reclaiming your true self and living a life that feels comfortable and authentic. Rather than being swept away by others’ expectations, trust yourself and make decisions based on your own axis. This is the first step toward a brighter, more fulfilling life. Starting today, why not make a conscious effort to live according to your own axis?

I hope this message resonates with you and becomes a source of inspiration in your life. Please share it with others so that they too can begin living authentically, from their own axis.