Table of Contents
Introduction: The Mentality of Trusting No One
Why I Stopped Trusting People
Experiences of Betrayal
The Reality After Becoming Disabled
The Only Two People I Can Trust
The Pros and Cons of Not Trusting Others
Pros: No More Unnecessary Expectations
Cons: Loneliness and Emotional Exhaustion
What It Means to “Diminish Life” – The Burden of Distrust
Why I Choose to Continue Living Without Trusting Others
A Message to You – Choosing Your Own Way of Life
1. Introduction: The Mentality of Trusting No One
The belief that “you can’t trust anyone in this world” is often seen as unfortunate.

People say that trusting others brings security and warmth, making life richer. But through my life experiences, I have come to the conclusion that I trust no one except my wife and my mother.

This decision was not made lightly; it was shaped by countless experiences of betrayal and disillusionment.

In this article, I will discuss why I came to this mindset, what I gain and lose by not trusting people, and why I still choose to live this way.

This is my story—one of solitude, survival, and unshakable resolve.

2. Why I Stopped Trusting People
■ Experiences of Betrayal
I stopped trusting people because I have been betrayed repeatedly throughout my life.

Friends, colleagues, and even family members—people who once seemed reliable—let me down when I needed them the most.

For example, when I became disabled, many people initially showed concern:

“Are you okay?”
“Let me know if you need anything.”

But as time passed, those same people gradually distanced themselves.

Words of kindness were just empty promises.

■ The Reality After Becoming Disabled
When I tried to return to society after becoming disabled, I saw the true nature of people.

At first, many offered encouragement. But as time went on, I was left to struggle alone.

Society preaches “help and support”, but in reality, few people actually provide meaningful assistance.

This realization made me decide:

I will trust no one.

3. The Only Two People I Can Trust
Despite my experiences, I have found two people I can trust—my wife and my mother.

No matter how weak or incapable I became, they never abandoned me.

Trust is not built on words. It is formed through consistent actions over time.

That is why I trust only them and expect nothing from anyone else.

4. The Pros and Cons of Not Trusting Others
■ Pros: No More Unnecessary Expectations
By not trusting others, I no longer experience betrayal.

If I have no expectations, I cannot be disappointed.

This mindset reduces stress and minimizes unnecessary emotional turmoil.

■ Cons: Loneliness and Emotional Exhaustion
However, choosing not to trust people means carrying everything alone.

I cannot rely on anyone.
I cannot consult with anyone.
I must make every decision and bear every responsibility by myself.

This constant vigilance and self-reliance are mentally and physically exhausting.

5. What It Means to “Diminish Life” – The Burden of Distrust
Saying that “not trusting others diminishes life” might sound dramatic.

But in reality, living constantly on guard, relying only on yourself, consumes your energy day by day.

The mental exhaustion of always doubting people
The emotional strain of facing every challenge alone
The pressure of carrying all responsibilities without support
These things gradually wear away at your strength.

This is what I mean by “diminishing life.”

6. Why I Choose to Continue Living Without Trusting Others
Some might say, “Isn’t it sad to live without trusting anyone?”

But for me, “being betrayed after trusting someone” is far worse than living without trust.

So, I protect myself by choosing not to trust anyone.

Even if it means facing loneliness.
Even if it means exhausting myself every day.

Because this is the most rational survival strategy for me.

7. A Message to You – Choosing Your Own Way of Life
If you are reading this and thinking, “I also can’t trust people”, know that you are not alone.

“It’s better not to trust than to be betrayed.”

I understand that feeling completely.

However, if you still want to believe in others, be very careful about whom you trust.

People betray easily.
But among them, there may be a few who are truly worth trusting.

I was fortunate to find those few.
Because of them, I am still here.

If you haven’t found anyone to trust yet, there is no need to force yourself to trust others.

But if someone comes into your life who truly proves themselves trustworthy, cherish them.

No matter what path you choose, your life has meaning.

Even if we diminish our lives little by little, we will continue to survive.